My last blog was about finding peace in the midst of all the noise and distractions amongst us. I wrote about the need that most of us have to be entertained rather than being still and in the moment. Because that blog seemed to get more engagement than some of the previous blogs, I decided to piggyback off it to include tips on how to find balance in a less-than-balanced society. So many of us think we need entertainment and things to find a place of inner peace. However, it is important to once again restore one’s balance and find joy in the simple things.
This is a subject that I can relate to all too well, especially because I work in a profession that requires me to give and absorb so much energy to and from others. Not only do we spend our day taking in so many things that we are affected by–all the things that we see and hear—these things contribute to our feeling a certain kind of way. Other people affect our happiness and other emotions. Even people we don’t know can put us in a sour mood if we don’t understand how to find that inner peace and balance.
Not only are we affected by the energy that we all share, we also have a need for “things” to fill any missing void in our lives. Naturally we gravitate to things that “make us happy” so to speak. But the reality is, according the experts and studies, all that we need to cope with life’s ups and downs is right inside of ourselves. We don’t need people to control our moods, we don’t need things to bring us fulfilled, according to the great guru’s and coaches everywhere. All that we need to live a happy, peaceful, sustained life is within us. Imagine that!
Working in the beauty profession can be beautiful and exciting being around all the creative energy and having the opportunity to make people feel amazing. You get to engage with so many different personalities and even experience the cultural of other people. Working in the salon invites people from all walks of life to come together for a common purpose and that is get “beauty-fied”!
The salon is the perfect setting for all things beauty and enhancement, so it would be only natural that anything connected to beauty, entertainment, and attraction will filter its way into the salon. Often the salon is used as an outlet to sell items that enhances one’s feelings–like purses, shoes, even tickets to up-and-coming concerts and shows. We have even had people come to the salon to sell jewelry. Occasionally people will come on Fridays to sell the best “feel good” comfort foods and desserts.
I guess it all makes sense. After all the beauty salon is the place where you go to look good, enhance your mood, and become renewed. So the notion to cater to ones “feel good” senses is ideal at the place where men and women are open to buy things and do things to make them feel happy. When you are in an environment where the energy is so high with all that’s going on–buying, selling, talking and physically engaging, it can be pretty taxing and draining.
I must admit that in my earlier days of working in the beauty salon, I would be one of the ones buying the feel-good food, jewelry, purses, and the clothes because admittedly, they made me happy. It seemed to be the norm for me to find happiness in the things that I could hold and touch. I, like most, had become consumed by what was around me and not necessarily what was inside of me. Half of the things I never used or would get it home and realize I didn’t need it or didn’t love it as much as I did when I was caught up in the moment.
The truth is when we are centered, we spend less money on frivolous things. We don’t get raveled by other people’s energy (as fast), and we realize that everything we need to sustain happiness is literally within us.
I have become a minimalist over the last few years, but the truth is that it was always in me even when I made many purchases from the people who sold merchandise at the salon. However over the past few years I have begun to downsize tremendously and not keep things that I really don’t care about, want, or need.
Here is where I will tie it all end and nail the point. We don’t need an excess of things to be happy. We don’t need an excess of outside influences to feel good inside. When we find peace within, we find balance. Once we really find that place of balance, (it’s a balancing act) we can make conscious choices about how we live and HOW we let others affect our energy. When you find that place of balance in a world that forces “things” upon us to speak to our own personal happiness and joy, we will see that we really don’t need much at all.
Every few months I literally go through my personal things, and I do a cleaning up of my space. If I don’t need it, if it doesn’t serve a purpose, or if it has no place, I get rid of it. That’s just me and how I cope because part of what keeps me centered is not feeling clutter around me. Obviously, your process may be different.
HERE IS A LIST OF THINGS THAT I DO TO KEEP MY BALANCE:
WAKE UP EARLY EACH MORNING– I can remember I use to say people that get up at 4:30 a.m. were crazy! Well now I set my alarm for 4:30 every morning. I do this because it seems to be the only way I can truly stay in front of my day. Originally, I just wanted to get some writing and reading done, however, I did not know it would bring about a sense of peace and balance in that quiet still hour. Since I have been setting my alarm, (it’s still hard to wake up) I start my morning with prayer and thankfulness, and I am able to power through my day with gratitude.
WORKOUT– Exercising in the morning is one of the most important parts of my day. I feel like it’s about me against myself. When I am pushing my body pass my own personal limitations, it is as though I challenge me to be better. This gives me a fulfillment of knowing I am allowing me to be the best I can, or at least working on it. I don’t need anything else to be at peace, knowing I am working on my best self is enough.
EAT WELL– Very recently I have incorporated a better way of eating into my daily routine, and I must say it has had a tremendous impact on how I feel from the inside, thus creating a more sustained balance. I have decided to eliminate just about all processed foods (because sometimes you don’t know it’s processed with all the hidden ingredients in food) and really loading up on the fruits, veggies and cleaner eating. I feel great. I have been avoiding all the temptation to eat the crap that our society is pushing us to consume in order to feel good and be happy.
ACUPUNCTURE– I have been a big advocate for acupuncture for the past 11 years. I get it religiously, and I know that it will be a part of my life for as long as I live. That’s how strongly I feel about it. I originally started getting acupuncture to feel better with the work-related pain I was dealing with. I now get it for overall wellness and, you guessed it, balance. These miracle needles help with every part of you, including mood and mental health.
MINIMALIST – Now this is a pretty sensitive subject. When I suggested to my relative to downsize much of her stuff, you would have thought I sentenced her to time in jail. She was distraught. So, let me be perfectly clear what being a minimalist looks like and feels like for me. I do not like clutter at all. Therefore, I go through my things regularly to clear out the old, create space, and keep the energy in my working and living space flowing freely. I have a personal rule for myself that if I have clothes that I have not worn for 2 season cycles, then it’s probably time for me to get rid of them. Yes, I am told that this may be extreme, but that’s okay. Your decluttering process may be different from mine. The point for me is keeping clean and clear energy flowing around me, and I make sure I keep it that way by doing regular decluttering.
These practices really work for me. They allow me to live a life of peace in a not-so-peaceful world. My thought process is clear; therefore, I don’t have to be sucked in or pulled every which way because of lack of balance. I can find quiet and enjoyment within instead of looking to be entertained outside. Don’t get me wrong, if I want to play, I play. If I want to find calm, I can find it in an instant, within.
What are some of the things that you do for personal happiness and balance?
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